Keep pace with your childs development. Your child is growing up. Consider how age is affecting the childs behaviour.
The same drive for independence that is making your three-year-old say no all the time is whats motivating him to be toilet trained. The same intellectual growth spurt that is making your 13-year-old curious and inquisitive in the classroom also is making her argumentative at the dinner table.
For example, An eighth grader is easily distracted, irritable. His grades in school are suffering. Hes argumentative. Should parents push him more, or should they be understanding so his self-esteem doesnt suffer?
“With a 13-year-old, the problem could be a number of things. He may be depressed. He could be getting too little sleep. Is he staying up too late? It could be he simply needs some help in structuring time to allow time for studying. He may have a learning problem. Pushing him to do better is not the answer. The problem needs to be diagnosed by a professional.”